Fighting sucks and its exhausting...

uggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!! I know...y'all are like, "ok.. first 59 posts about the dogs fighting now you???" I know y'all think I probably like fighting.. like I enjoy the back and forth... and maybe I did.. but now.. its just exhausting... I swear.. sometimes I feel like I'm speaking Mandarin and everyone else is speaking English.... how do you stop and feel heard when noone understands you???? I am currently fighting with my co worker and my hubsband (both men)... why?? I would love to tell you.. it was something about me not listening... I probably wasnt' paying attention....